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Post by Bannedingo on Jan 31, 2008 17:08:38 GMT -6
ok heres my situation, i was with this girl for a year nand a half, and when we broke up it took me forever to partly revover. i still havent. but i dealt with it, this guy who's supposed to be my friend saw me freaking out after seeing a picture of her and asked me whats wrong.. i told him the story and today he said he's going to ask her out. it took all my self control not so smash his face in at that moment. for other people.. ok Adam, your married. if (god forbid) your wife left you and then someone you trusted tried to get with her? cause thats my situation. so should i..
A) rip him a new asshole and smear him across the state
B) swallow my depression hold in my anger and cut out that piece of brain with a tumor when im 50
C) Other. (write in reply)
thanks, VD
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Post by Jack Manson on Jan 31, 2008 17:16:19 GMT -6
He obviously isn't a very good friend if he's going to ask your ex out.
It comes down to morals really, there is no law stopping him from asking her out if shes single, but if he is a friend of yours then he should respect how you're feeling about this. If he doesn't already know you don't like this then tell him.
If he still goes ahead then **** him, you don't need friends like that dude.
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Post by Danny Vice on Jan 31, 2008 17:19:32 GMT -6
Agreed.
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Post by Adam on Jan 31, 2008 17:42:06 GMT -6
I had a girlfriend who cheated on me.... and my friends, (Drabble, Knucker, and Tremor) had to hold me back over a year later from busting him up when he showed up at a party we were having.
So I may not be the best person to talk to if you were looking for the level headed answer.
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Post by tylerjacobs on Jan 31, 2008 17:47:31 GMT -6
Yeah....I'd rip his throat out...but hey, your a young impressionable kid so let's try not to influence you...
Ahem... ask him, ask him if he knows how upset you are. If he does, kick the **** out of him.
Plain and simple. I threw a stool across a bar once when my gf was with another.........girl. Ummhmm......thats happened to me twice...
*bows head in shame*
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Post by Bannedingo on Jan 31, 2008 17:54:56 GMT -6
so far.. my favorite answers are from adam and T.J. yeah, he sqw me crying. he ****in knows. if you saw my wrestling vid.. he's the one who's lip i busted. i've got a plan already.. another match. we put him in a trash can.. then i pull oit a ladder from the woods prefably a 7 foot ladder. then i jump off and drop both knees onto him.. by the time he regains conciousness i'll say i screwed up a elbow drop.. then i'll beat his ass down. its a bit voilent. and i hardly ever use this word.. but i ****ing loved her.
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Post by The Brothers Holland on Jan 31, 2008 18:41:43 GMT -6
I'd say be the bigger man. Make sure he's aware that if he goes through with it he'll be losing a friend but the fact remains, she's not yours anymore.
He's an asshole... he's a **** of a human being... but she's not your fight.
The sooner you realise and accept that the sooner you'll get closer to getting over her. I've been in love, I've had my heart ripped out... I even smashed a properly made wooden daito (katana style sword) in half against a tree out of pure rage... but violence is rarely the answer.
Unless the question is zombies. Violence kills zombies hard.
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Post by Xavier Williams on Jan 31, 2008 19:52:08 GMT -6
Let's be honest if your ex way really
really
really
hot... (by your age means) all bets are off, let's say I was friends with Nick Leshay, he (breaks up/divorces) Jessica Simpson, I'd be the first man on her doorstep.
But unless that is the case:
Fist + Face x Rapid Succession = Understanding
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Post by Adam on Jan 31, 2008 19:58:40 GMT -6
I'd definetly try to take Mr. Holland's advice on this one.... it's the best thing to do, but as we all know sometimes the best idea doesn't seem an option in the heat of the moment.
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Post by Bannedingo on Jan 31, 2008 20:02:22 GMT -6
I'd definetly try to take Mr. Holland's advice on this one.... it's the best thing to do, but as we all know sometimes the best idea doesn't seem an option in the heat of the moment. you obviously dont know me very well, when i hate someone.. fists fly. its just a question of how many fists will fly and if i grab a chair or not. |
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Post by Davey Ortega on Jan 31, 2008 20:07:20 GMT -6
whoa whoa whoa...hold on. Everyone needs to take a step back and think of this logically.
First, you were with her for a year and a half...how long ago was that? If it was six months ago then what is the big deal? Your young, and you don't want to believe me but trust me...this is nothing to get bent out of shape about. Women come and women go, but friends are not that easy to replace. So he wants to date your ex. My circle of friends have dated one of everyone elses exs. Hell my current is my room mates ex! My other room mate is the father of one of my ex's kids. No body holds any hard feelings over the other because we know no matter what we will be their for one another.
Violence will only show the ex in question why she isn't with you, and will show just how much of a loose cannon you are. Should you swallow your pride? What pride? You your self have been trying to get some..yet you berate someone else for wanting to date her? The girl you wanted is an ex of someones.
I firmly believe no woman should ever become between friends...and if you let it then you are no better than the one who wants to date her.
So yes call me an asshole, call me whatever...but I am right.
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Post by Bannedingo on Jan 31, 2008 20:10:04 GMT -6
i see where your coming from. but she was like my soulmate. it hurts to even think of her with another guy, then seeing her with that sex addict ugly pig of a human being enrages me beyond the point of insanity.
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Post by Davey Ortega on Jan 31, 2008 20:11:32 GMT -6
I understand you feel that way. But at this point you do not have a say in what is best for her. The question truly is..how does she feel about him?
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Post by Bannedingo on Jan 31, 2008 20:20:46 GMT -6
no idea, but i know what he does. the asshole ****s the girl. then cheats on them, he's done it to 9 others. and he's not gonna stop with her.
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Post by The Brothers Holland on Jan 31, 2008 20:43:09 GMT -6
Then tell her. Make sure she has all the information and then it's down to her to make her own mistakes.
Seriously, all violence is going to do is yes, ok, temporarily you'll feel better... but then what? You think he's going to leave it at that? He's either going to come back at you himself or if he's got any sense, get you arrested for aggravated assault. Things like this can get out of hand quickly and I know what you're saying, I understand you're a naturally violent person but seriously just step back and think for god's sake.
Seriously, the guy who was with my "soulmate" was a complete ass bandit. He was cheating on her, he was a drunk, he was a retard, he was a chav (Sorry if you don't understand what that means, it's a british thing). I wanted to kill the bastard. Because of him it wasn't a matter of I couldn't have her, it was a matter of she seemed to forget I existed, even though I'd helped her through her depression. I didn't lay a damn finger on him. in the end it was him who wanted to start a fight on me and I would've let him but I had five guys convincing me not to and how he wasn't worth my time.
I didn't lay a damn finger on him. A few months later and she realised what a scumbag he was and moved on to another guy, someone who I've met and is actually a nice guy. I hardly ever see her but I think about her all the time and when I do see her we talk. She knows I exist again. Sure, it never stops hurting, I doubt I'll ever be completely over her but the fact is she wants something else, something not me. I've accepted that and you need to accept that too.
Seriously man, just talk to her. Let her worry about the other guy.
Now if you'll excuse me I need to go do something about these reopened wounds.
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Post by Bannedingo on Jan 31, 2008 20:46:06 GMT -6
thanks bro, you basically just described my situation. i've been trying to calm down all day but i can't stop thinking about it. it ****ing sucks
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Post by The Brothers Holland on Jan 31, 2008 20:47:31 GMT -6
That's life. Welcome to growing up.
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Post by msjsn3 on Jan 31, 2008 21:12:35 GMT -6
You can always let her know about your friend...but it is her choice if she wants to go with him. Like Davey Ortega says friends will date ex's that is life. There are plenty of girls around. Eventually you will forget about her, and you will go on with life, and you will find another one....but let me warn you....something along this line or something else will happen again.....take it with strive and continue on dating....that is life, it is part of growing up. The only way to not have this problem....stop dating! But being males....you should know what should come next
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Post by Christopher Esper on Jan 31, 2008 21:29:16 GMT -6
No offense but you're like what, fifteen? Chances are, you're not going to have a lasting serious girlfriend for a long while. I doubt he cares about her, I doubt she cares about him, and if she broke up with you I doubt you should care about her.
She's just one of many girls to come in your long life time of poon hunting, and I say this harshly because I've gone through the same thing when I was younger.
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Post by Xavier Williams on Jan 31, 2008 21:38:31 GMT -6
Fist
Face
Rapid Succession
Understanding
Never a bad idea
But yea, it sucks seeing a woman you are with or trying to get with, hooked up with a complete douchebag, the best advice I can give is, try to hold on to the friendship (with the girl or the guy)
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Post by Bannedingo on Jan 31, 2008 22:07:03 GMT -6
really.. **** them both. him for being a insensitive asshole. and her for being a dirty slut.
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Post by Lance "The Icon" Ryan on Jan 31, 2008 22:22:36 GMT -6
Well, here is my advice as someone that has ben cheated on, and done the cheating *(hey, I was a bad teen, what can I say?
I would say be the bigger man and just let it go. Here are my reasons. First, fighting solves nothing, and in today's day, fighting can lead to bigger fights and even death, sad but true. No girl is worth that.
Secondly, other girls hate a jealous guy, which at your age that would be seen as, a jealous act.
Lastly, you can choose to either stay worked up over some chick, or move on and realize that there is better for you out there. Take your pick.
One time, I knew that my gf was cheating on me, and couldnt prove it, then randomly this one night at the bar this little guy comes up and tells me that he is sorry and that he didnt know I was her boyrfriend when he slept with her...bear in mind that I am 6'3 and 240 lbs. This guy had balls. I could have eaten him for breakfast. Instead I bought him a drink and thanked him for telling me the truth.
It made me feel like the bigger man, you can do the same
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Post by youkon on Jan 31, 2008 22:43:53 GMT -6
Do what I do..ask if she'd like to bang...bang her..try to get her pregnant..maybe take a few pictures of you guys together..show your friend...take the pictures..wipe your butt with them..then shove them down his throat and walk away. I mean come on, yeah, you love her I know...but if she's going to date your best friend..then she's pretty ****ty herself. Wouldn't you agree?
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Post by Davey Ortega on Jan 31, 2008 22:49:43 GMT -6
Do what I do..ask if she'd like to bang...bang her..try to get her pregnant..maybe take a few pictures of you guys together..show your friend...take the pictures..wipe your butt with them..then shove them down his throat and walk away. I mean come on, yeah, you love her I know...but if she's going to date your best friend..then she's pretty s**tty herself. Wouldn't you agree? That is the most disgusting and disrespectful thing I have ever heard in my life. I have strong feelings that you have never been with a woman at all. |
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Post by Kelly Fox on Jan 31, 2008 22:56:55 GMT -6
Do what I do..ask if she'd like to bang...bang her..try to get her pregnant..maybe take a few pictures of you guys together..show your friend...take the pictures..wipe your butt with them..then shove them down his throat and walk away. I mean come on, yeah, you love her I know...but if she's going to date your best friend..then she's pretty s**tty herself. Wouldn't you agree? That is the most disgusting and disrespectful thing I have ever heard in my life. I have strong feelings that you have never been with a woman at all. .....OWNED!  |
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Post by Bannedingo on Jan 31, 2008 22:59:56 GMT -6
Do what I do..ask if she'd like to bang...bang her..try to get her pregnant..maybe take a few pictures of you guys together..show your friend...take the pictures..wipe your butt with them..then shove them down his throat and walk away. I mean come on, yeah, you love her I know...but if she's going to date your best friend..then she's pretty s**tty herself. Wouldn't you agree? whoever you are, you kick ass. |
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Post by tylerjacobs on Feb 1, 2008 4:39:01 GMT -6
Dude, you haven't listened to anybody.
I haven't said anything negative because I don't want you to feel i'm on your back and giving you grief for no reason but sadly it's time:
Your too young to know what love is, your too young to know what a soulmate is. If your prepared to bloody and batter a friend over a girl, then YOU sir, are not a worthy friend. Your going through puberty, most...erm..some of us here have been there done that. We know what it's like. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 1/2 years and I'm still not sure i know what love is.
You need to let it go, get on with your life and start growing up.
If violence is your answer, you'll either be spending a lot of time in prison, or lead a very very short life.
I'm sorry man.
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Post by JFK on Feb 1, 2008 8:57:47 GMT -6
no idea, but i know what he does. the asshole f**ks the girl. then cheats on them, he's done it to 9 others. and he's not gonna stop with her. and this is your best friend? whats that say about the company YOU keep around you? normally I'd say bro's before ho's but in this case I'd cut both of em out of my life. |
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Post by youkon on Feb 1, 2008 11:04:33 GMT -6
Do what I do..ask if she'd like to bang...bang her..try to get her pregnant..maybe take a few pictures of you guys together..show your friend...take the pictures..wipe your butt with them..then shove them down his throat and walk away. I mean come on, yeah, you love her I know...but if she's going to date your best friend..then she's pretty s**tty herself. Wouldn't you agree? That is the most disgusting and disrespectful thing I have ever heard in my life. I have strong feelings that you have never been with a woman at all. Oh come on D-O, I was just kidding about the banging her and getting her pregnant part. But on a more serious note, if she's willing to date your best friend then she's a waste of your time and not the person you thought she was. I'd say leave her and leave well alone. And, you say I rock by what I said earlier? Adam...HOLD HIM TO THAT!!! lol Good luck in your choice and I hope you make the one that's best for you. |
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Post by Bannedingo on Feb 1, 2008 17:47:31 GMT -6
Dude, you haven't listened to anybody. I haven't said anything negative because I don't want you to feel i'm on your back and giving you grief for no reason but sadly it's time: Your too young to know what love is, your too young to know what a soulmate is. If your prepared to bloody and batter a friend over a girl, then YOU sir, are not a worthy friend. Your going through puberty, most...erm..some of us here have been there done that. We know what it's like. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 1/2 years and I'm still not sure i know what love is. You need to let it go, get on with your life and start growing up. If violence is your answer, you'll either be spending a lot of time in prison, or lead a very very short life. I'm sorry man. how can i put this, when i was with her. i never felt pain. i had dream after dream about her for months at at time. i would've taken a thousand bullets for her and laid in a pool of my own blood just to know that she'd outlive me. she was the only person who mattered to me. i lived for her. if thats not love.. then you should go brush up on your definitions. |
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